On this week’s episode of Theology Gals, Coleen and Angela discuss a recent viral article from Lori Alexander that said men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos. They also discuss other errors from websites and books directed at Christian women. This episode is not just for the ladies. Our Christian men need to be aware of the types of things Christian women are hearing.
If you’re a woman that happened upon this episode, you’re looking for hope, maybe you’ve been hurt by some of the things we talk about here, I encourage you to listen to this message The Gospel for Those Broken by the Church.
Episode Resources:
Does God Require Women To Be Debt and Tattoo-Free Virgins? by Brooke Ventura
An Open Letter to the Author of “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos” by Erica Wilkinson
Purity Culture with Rebecca Lemke | Theology Gals | Episode 52
Created To Be His Help Meet review by Tim Challies & Part 2
Q&A Friday: Is it a sin for a Christian to get a tattoo? by Erik Raymond
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“Denies herself a legacy and a baby a body”.
That is LDS theology there! Good Mormon couples are supposed to have as many children as possible to provide bodies for all Heavenly Father’s spirit children.
“Denies herself a legacy and a baby a body”.
That is LDS theology there! Good Mormon couples are supposed to have as many children as possible to provide bodies for all Heavenly Father’s spirit children.
I am infertile. Barren. Who caused it?
I am infertile. Barren. Who caused it?
“Well, what about him?”
I think I can address this one and maybe help you understand what Ms. Alexander is talking about. I can do this because I have this wife you are talking about.
Basically, at the first, slightest hint of critique, she will immediately do just what Lori is talking about. “Oh, yeah? Well what about…..”. Rather than address to issue or concern that has been raised, she will deflect the issue or concern by trying to divert the attention somewhere else the instant it is brought up. it doesn’t matter how slight or trivial. The very instant she detects that you are suggesting that something is wrong, she will immediately start trying to steer the conversation away from herself.
It’s not the end of the world. I get it. No one wants to be told that something is wrong. And I don’t blame my wife for being this way – I just have learned to work with it or around it.
People are quick to say that “you shouldn’t criticize”. It is suggested that we bring up the topic in some other context, or in some other way. That we should suggest that “something is this or that way”, rather than you are “doing this or not doing that”.
But, really, eventually you have to quit trying to communicate via osmosis, quit trying to suggest things and *hope* they get the point. Eventually you have to actually state something clearly. And there are people (this is hardly limited to women) who do exactly that.
So, in this case Ms. Alexander’s observation is correct.
“Well, what about him?”
I think I can address this one and maybe help you understand what Ms. Alexander is talking about. I can do this because I have this wife you are talking about.
Basically, at the first, slightest hint of critique, she will immediately do just what Lori is talking about. “Oh, yeah? Well what about…..”. Rather than address to issue or concern that has been raised, she will deflect the issue or concern by trying to divert the attention somewhere else the instant it is brought up. it doesn’t matter how slight or trivial. The very instant she detects that you are suggesting that something is wrong, she will immediately start trying to steer the conversation away from herself.
It’s not the end of the world. I get it. No one wants to be told that something is wrong. And I don’t blame my wife for being this way – I just have learned to work with it or around it.
People are quick to say that “you shouldn’t criticize”. It is suggested that we bring up the topic in some other context, or in some other way. That we should suggest that “something is this or that way”, rather than you are “doing this or not doing that”.
But, really, eventually you have to quit trying to communicate via osmosis, quit trying to suggest things and *hope* they get the point. Eventually you have to actually state something clearly. And there are people (this is hardly limited to women) who do exactly that.
So, in this case Ms. Alexander’s observation is correct.